Hi Bluedog04,
VW2022 has added an option for plant parameters to be 'by instance' or 'by style'. What I think is happening is plants in your library have spread and height set by instance. You have to make them 'by style' so when you load a new plant from the dialog it brings the data set by style with it.
You need to use a script to fix this problem. This script will open a dialog from which you can choose to change the value of a parameter or make a parameter be "by style" or "by instance". In your case, you can make the parameters be by style. So when you change the style from tool, the values will always be taken from it.
Please follow these steps:
Create a new script using the function: MassEditPlantStyle('changeStyling_ByStyle=true');
Start the Plant tool and choose a style.
Run the script and select the parameters to be by style or change the value of the parameter.